Victorias Secret Models Vs Lane Bryant Models

So you want to be skinny. Okay. But let me ask you this. Why do you want to be skinny? Do you want to be skinny because you think you’ll be worth more as a skinny woman than you’re worth right now? When you go out and see skinny women at the mall do you hate yourself and wish you were like them? Why? Because society values them more than society values you? Because you value them more than you value yourself?

Is that really okay with you to go around believing you’re worth less than girls/women who are skinnier than you? Does it seem right or even reasonable to hate yourself because you can’t fit into a pair of size 2 jeans?

I know, everybody wants to be skinny. Skinny rules, and that’s never going to change.

I get that you’d rather be admired than scorned and skinny people are admired over not so skinny people.

I get that it’s considered more enviable to model for Victoria’s Secret than to model for Lane Bryant. So I’m not going to try to talk you out of wanting to be skinny. It’s okay to want to feel good about yourself, and if being skinny will make you feel good about yourself then by all means try to get skinny.

In the meantime think about this: Do you really want to diminish your own self-worth to a measure of how skinny or fat you are? Do you know that you don’t need to be skinny to feel good about yourself?

In fact, you can be skinny and still hate yourself. I know this for a fact. Being skinny never stopped me from hating myself and hating my life. I was as suicidal while weighing 98 pounds as while weighing 150 pounds. I was the same person skinny as fat. Nothing was different inside and being skinny didn’t make my misery more bearable. I never had a day of saying “I feel like hanging myself, but at least I wear size 1 jeans and have a twenty-inch waist.”

The way I see it, aspiring to  be a happy bitch is more worthwhile than aspiring to be a skinny bitch. Go on a diet to lose your self hate, your depression, your obsession with weight, and everything else will fall into place.

When you are happy you live life more fully and take better care of yourself, and when you are living life to the fullest and taking good care of yourself the evidence will be physically manifested.

Happiness and contentment with life is the only diet pill you need. Forget the skinny bitch nonsense with its obsessive focus on your physical appearance. The stress from trying to lose weight to measure up to the skinny bitch image will usually lead to greater misery which will only help to keep you trapped in the cycle of eating to cope with your misery. Fix the real problems that lie at the root of your weight issues. Learn to love yourself and love life and the rest will fall into place.

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Like alcoholics and their drinking, smokers and their nicotine, drug addicts and their drug of choice, over-eaters use food to fill a void.

If you think only overweight people overeat I caution you to think again. Overeating is not a problem plaguing only overweight people. Overweight people are largely individuals who are living with the consequence of their addiction to eating; but as with any addiction, there are some addicts who never suffer the typical consequences. Not all smokers develop lung cancer. There are skinny people who are addicted to eating. Over-eating is not a weight problem. People don’t overeat because they’re fat. They become fat because they overeat.  Weight problems result from over-eating, but psychological problems are at the root of overeating. People overeat because they are using food to try to fill a void, because they want to feel good, and eating makes them feel good.

Unfortunately, even when we don’t overeat necessarily, most of the food that make us feel good when we eat can make us gain weight if we don’t have an active lifestyle and don’t exercise regularly. So when we eat significantly more of these fattening foods than is required we gain weight more rapidly. The catch-22 that traps many of us in a never-ending cycle is that the more weight we gain, the more we eat to cope with the shame we feel over our bodies.

People aren’t overweight because they’re greedy and worthless. They are overweight because they eat to cope with all the emotions they can’t handle, stress, anger, depression, loneliness, confusion, self-hate….

The first step in conquering any addiction, including an addiction to eating, is to recognize that the addiction exists and admit that you have a problem.

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Eventually we get to hating ourselves and not caring how we look, or at least telling ourselves we don’t care how we look. our misery over our inability to lose weightand even at times to punish ourselves for

I get it. You hate yourself. You  think you’re fat. You keep trying to lose weight but nothing ever works. Even if you lose a few pounds you end up gaining it all back and the cycle just continues. You’re totally fed up. You’re ready to give up. What’s the point of torturing yourself? Even if you eat only carrots for a week you still gain weight, or so it seems. You might as well be eating pizza and cake.

After all, who wouldn’t want to eat this?

Or this?

Instead of this?

Food is good

Food makes us feel good. That’s why some of us eat so much more of it than we need that we end up gaining more weight than we should carry. Eating food makes us feel good; and the richer and tastier the food the better we feel while eating it.

Hey, there’s nothing wrong with loving to eat okay? Preferring cake and pizza over carrots is nothing to be ashamed of; but using food as a drug can cost you your life. Eating to feel good is no different from smoking a joint to feel good, or drinking alcohol to feel good. It’s a habit that comes with undesirable consequences; so over the next several weeks we’re going to learn to break the habit.

The irony

The same reason you got into the habit of overeating is the same reason you can’t seem to get out of the habit of overeating. You were using food to try to fill a void, but you created an even bigger void and you keep using food to fill the void, the void keeps getting bigger. The bigger the void the harder you try to fill it. The harder you try to fill it the bigger the void becomes. You are in a no-win situation. Food is never going to fill the void. It will only make the void grow bigger.

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I have never taken diet pills. Well, actually that’s not exactly true. I did take a single dexatrim once when I was about 17. I was weighing about 90 pounds at the time and thought I was fat so I wanted to find a way to lose weight. I didn’t understand that dexatrim was an appetite suppressant, so it wouldn’t exactly work for someone who already had a pretty good routine going of suppressing her appetite and not eating for days. I found out the hard way that dexatrim was not made for girls on the verge of developing anorexia nervosa. After my experience with that one (literally 1 single) dexatrim I’ve never again tried diet pills.

I’ve always been skeptical that diet pills even work in the first place; but considering how many women are out there popping pills to lose weight and keeping the diet pill market thriving, I would guess at least a few of the myriad products available on the market must help some women achieve their weight loss goals.

There are hundreds of diet pill products on the market today. The list includes products with names such as Nuphedragen, LipoSeduction 2250, curvatrim, hydroxycut, phentramine, hoodia, adipex, ephedra, chitosan, Cytodyne Taraxatone just to name a few.

Personally I would not take these products or any other diet pills; but countless women do use diet pills; and I suppose someone who has practiced chewing up and spitting out food in order not to gain weight shouldn’t dare preach to women about using diet pills. However, if you’ve never taken diet pills and you’re at the stage of wondering if using pills to lose weight is the answer for you, it is a good idea to do plenty of research. These days you have no excuse for wasting your money on products that don’t work or are dangerous, because there are plenty of places on the Internet where you can find women talking about diet pills that work for them and products that didn’t work. You can easily find reviews and other useful information about countless dieting methods and diet products. There is no reason that you should end up getting cheated out of money or putting your life at risk.

I shamefully admit that I used to practice a diet routine which I referred to as the chew it up and spit it out diet. The idea behind that was that when ever you felt an impulse to eat, rather than struggle with the urge, you went ahead and ate; but instead of swallowing the food, you chewed it up and spat it out being careful not to swallow any part of it, including any liquid resulting from saliva mixing with the food. Yes, it is gross.

What I find interesting is that my chew it up spit it out diet is not original. I decided on a whim today to check and see if other women/girls might use this ‘technique” and lo and behold, I discovered that the chew it up spit it out diet is a method used by anorexics.

I do not advocate getting into a habit of chewing up and spitting out food. It is a smarter idea to practice healthy eating and practice self control so that when you feel impulses to eat outside of your normal eating schedule you can control them. Or better yet keep healthy low-cal fat-free snacks handy for those times when you feel an impulse to eat outside of your regular meal times.

Yesterday I consumed 3 slices of pizza. I don’t even want to think about how much fat each slice contained. I know  I will definitely start storing some excess fat if I follow up yesterday’s bad food choice with more bad food choices in the next several days; so I am undertaking to fast Saturday, Sunday and Monday then get back on track from Tuesday making healthier food choices. It’s been nice to be able to go out and not feel self-conscious about my weight. I’ve lost considerable fat tissue since dropping my daily caloric and fat intake. Although I have to admit I haven’t been able to stick to 500 calories per day because I wasn’t able to function with so few  calories. I had to up it to 750 – 1000 calories.

Yesterday was my first day in a while being so blatantly careless about what I put into my mouth. Hopefully I’ll be able to stick to the 3-day fast and that will null and void the 3 slices of pizza.

So today I will have a cup of tea at noon, another cup of tea at 4PM and another cup of tea around 6 or 7 PM; then I will do the same on Sunday and Monday. On Tuesday I will strictly eat vegetables and drink V-8 Fusion light and do the same Wednesday – Friday.

Then maybe on Saturday I will go out for breakfast with my son (and husband if he’s off from work) and have a muffin, then eat a light dinner later in the evening. That should result in some additional fat loss from those places where my body tends to store excess fat. I do still have some fat to lose. Note I say I am trying to lose fat because that is really my goal. I still have no idea how much I weigh. My goal isn’t to be a certain weight, it’s to be comfortable with my body and not have excess layers of unsightly fat. Some fat is okay. I’d just reached a point  where I was storing too much.

There was a time in my life when I would call myself a fat pig while weighing under 110 pounds. I can remember distinctly one occasion when I felt like the world had come to an end because I got on a scale and it told me I weighed 108 pounds. I wanted to die. I couldn’t believe I had gotten so fat. I’d gained 10 pounds and I was so embarrassed and ashamed. It’s funny because a few years ago while on paxil I went all the way to 150 pounds, and until my family came for a visit and started commenting on the dramatic difference in my weight, I didn’t realize I was fat. I was walking around dressed in sexy clothes and feeling sexier than I had ever felt in my entire life. But once my family drew my attention to the fact that I was fat in their eyes that all changed.

I was taking paxil for depression and anxiety and while on paxil my life had improved, obviously, because I was weighing 150 pounds and feeling sexy. But once other people told me that I was feeling sexy but looking fat, I stopped taking paxil. I lost the weight I’d gained but I also lost the confidence I’d gained. I got back my skinny figure and my depression and anxiety. Yes, I chose being skinny over being happy, feeling confident and feeling good about myself, and I made this choice because of other people.

My entire life has been spent trying to stay skinny so that no one can ever justifiably call me fat. I’m no longer skinny because starving myself has gotten harder as I’ve gotten older and my metabolism isn’t what it used to be. Although not diagnosed, I believe I have some hormone issues that cause me to gain weight more rapidly these days, and being under constant stress I’ve picked up a habit for constantly eating. With all that my weight now fluctuates between 129 and 140 pounds. Once upon a time that would have been unheard of. I couldn’t have lived with myself weighing 108 pounds much less 130. But I’ve come to realize that I never really have a problem with myself unless I am in the presence of my family. I am quite comfortable with my size and love the shape of my body. Yes, sometimes I gain excess fat in places where I don’t like to have excess fat, so I modify my habits to loose that excess; but I don’t have any real need to be skinny unless family will be visiting. Then I am obsessed about my weight because I know they will be taking notice of my size and commenting that I’ve gained weight.

Why is it that some women react to being told they’ve gained weight as if it’s the worse thing in the world? People gain weight. Weight gain is nothing to want to kill yourself over. Just the same way you gained weight you can lose it by doing the opposite of what you did to gain it. And forget about other people and what they think. Live your life. It’s more important to be happy and to feel good about yourself; and if you’re happy and feel good about yourself don’t let someone else’s opinion that you have nothing to feel good about because you’re fat have so much relevance and importance that you stop feeling happy and stop feeling good because someone else thinks only skinny people have reason to be happy and to feel good about themselves.

Here’s a tip for reducing the calories in your sandwich. Replace the regular sliced bread with thinly sliced bread. You’ll probably pay more for the courtesy of eating thinly sliced bread but you can knock 60 – 130 calories off your sandwich. Added to my grocery list:

Pepperidge Farm®

Very Thin Sliced Soft 100% Whole Wheat Bread

Nutrition Facts*
Amount per Serving (serving size) = 3 slices

* The nutrition information contained in this list of Nutrition Facts is based on our current data. However, because the data may change from time to time, this information may not always be identical to the nutritional label information of products on shelf.

** % Daily Values (DV) are based on a 2,000 calorie diet.

Planning your meals can help you control your eating impulses as well as manage your calories, fat, carbs and other nutrients you might be trying to cut down on. Planning your meals includes deciding what you’re going to eat for breakfast, lunch dinner and snacks daily; and also setting an eating schedule. I am working on a 7-day breakfast meal plan that keeps my breakfasts at 150 – 190 calories.

They say breakfast is the most important meal of the day but they say a lot of things. Some people don’t eat breakfast and are perfectly healthy; so you could eliminate breakfast altogether; but personally I need something to eat in the morning. I have set a schedule for breakfast whereby I eat at 9AM and at no time earlier than that. I am working on a meal plan that not only keeps the calories consumed under 200 but also provides as many other needed nutrients as possible. I have an iron deficit problem that can be dangerous to play with when you have fibroids, so I need to make sure I am getting enough iron daily. And I need to be consuming enough vitamins, calcium and other nutrients to keep my body going strong even on less than 1000 calories per day.

I’ll admit I don’t like this calorie counting business. It is something I always abhorred and never thought I would get caught up in but my metabolism appears to have slowed to a snail’s pace. I swear 500 calories on my body is the equivalent of 1500 for a normal person. It would explain why after about 3 weeks consuming 500 calories and under I’ve only dropped about a size and a half. Once upon a time I’d be in the hospital being fed on intravenous fluids going 3 weeks on 500 calories.

But the point I’m trying to make here is that meal planning could prove to be a key step in the process of losing weight and keeping it off. Not every woman can eat whatever she wants whenever she wants to eat it without any consequence to her figure. Some of us need to pay closer attention to what we’re eating, when and how much and planning our meals can help us to consistently ensure we are eating what is necessary to sustain us and nothing more.

If you finish off a pack of ritz crackers in one sitting you’ll have consumed:

• 490 calories
• 14 grams of fat
• 1120 mg sodium
• 77 grams of carbohydrates
• 7 grams of protein
• 105 mg potassium

That doesn’t allow for anything you might put on your ritz crackers. I generally don’t buy ritz crackers or any kind of crackers because I find it impossible to just have a serving or two. Unfortunately I don’t live alone and against my requests not to have certain foods brought into the house, things I expressly forbid to be brought into the house get brought in anyway. Marriage can be so wonderful (sarcasm)

I consumed about 3 or 4 servings of Ritz crackers today, adding (assuming 4 servings) 280 unnecessary calories, 8 unnecessary grams of fat and 45 unnecessary grams of carbohydrates to my food intake for the day. That gets added to the fat-free 100 calorie tapioca pudding, and the 60 calorie rice pudding that I ate not realizing it contained cholesterol.

I might have picked at other things without paying attention so I’m going to estimate my calorie intake so far at 600 which means I’ve gone over my daily allowance of 500 and can’t eat anything else for the day.

Let me try to remember exactly what I’ve eaten today:

• Fat free Tapioca pudding: 100 calories
• Rice Pudding: 60 calories
• Ritz crackers (4 servings): 280 calories
• 1/4 cup cheerios: 35 calories
• A cup of sugar sweetened tea: 60 calories

Total calories: 535

As for fat intake:

• Fat free Tapioca pudding: 0 grams of fat
• Rice Pudding: 2 grams of fat
• Ritz crackers (4 servings): 8 grams of fat
• 1/4 cup cheerios: 0.5 grams of fat
• A cup of sugar sweetened tea: 0 grams of fat

Total fat: 10.5

Now, had I not consumed the ritz crackers I’d have 280 calories to work with later; and of course had the hubby not bought the ritz crackers I wouldn’t have had them to eat. If it was left to the hubby I’d be critically obese and sitting around at home all day eating out of depression over being critically obese while he hangs out at the mall daily ogling all the fine young things with their hot fit bodies. I must have more control and ability to resist eating things I know I shouldn’t eat regardless if they are accessible or not.